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  • Writer's pictureMichaela Makusha

Mental Health and Good Times: What we consider Good Times

There is always an idea of what all young people consider a ‘good time’ - partying, drinking. But for those of us who feel so much all the time and the world constantly feeling as if it is falling apart, these activities may not appeal to us.

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For me, a good time is a whole night’s sleep. A hike in the mountains or surrounded by my books and juice. Or when I have my earphones in, listening to Beyonce or Hozier, stopping my thoughts and feelings from overwhelming me. Take time to put on a face mask and be around loved ones.

That is what a good time looks like to me. It’s rare, but I savour those moments when my mind and body are at some sort of peace.

I asked some fellow Brummies and mental health advocates what they consider a good time:

Zaynab, She/Her

As someone with severe and enduring mental illness, a “good time” is more than just the absence of symptoms. A good time for me is when I feel empowered, accomplished and validated. This can be when I regulate my emotions better than the last time: allowing myself to feel emotions and cry at a sappy, pathetic chick flick or screaming in joy and triumph over marvel films. Emotions need to be felt, and a good time for me is allowing myself to feel them at their strongest.
A good time is challenging my body’s emotional or physical limits and remaining more victorious and accomplished than before. I quite like walking up mountains as this gives me those feelings.

Heather, she/her, 22

A good time for me would be somewhere I fundamentally feel safe enough or secure enough in my environment to not have to alter any part of me. Lots of that is places or spaces that enable connection - with people, myself, nature, music etc. Learning that a good time isn’t always what society says is The Good Time and it can change depending on my needs, and learning to listen to my body - usually ensures a good time!

Charlie, she/they

As a disabled person, a “good time” has become extremely subjective. It can be when my chronic fatigue and pain are lower, a day where I feel like I can do more without as much inevitable payback. It might be when my sensory needs are manageable. I can engage with my friends when there’s less overwhelming, I’m not left wincing or feeling physical pain from noise ricocheting through me or leaving me in a meltdown.
It’s hard to place what a good or bad time is - it’s fluid and sometimes has to be managed hour by hour. Sometimes a split second can change everything, and it’s very hard to manage your mental well-being when you don’t know what your brain and body might feel next. It’s all about enjoying what I can and not falling into cycles of doing too much and crashing later - that can cause there to be far less good times.

Sophia, she/her

Defining “a good time” is difficult, especially with long-term mental illness. For me, though, I feel my best when I am spending time with people I love (including just with myself!), doing things that make me feel alive, satisfied and fulfilled and allowing myself to feel a range of emotions. It’s difficult to enjoy the better times because my illness is so unpredictable, and things could change very suddenly. I try to live the good times to the fullest as much as possible because when they are gone, I feel their absence like a crater in my stomach. At the same time, though, the rollercoaster of my feelings is sometimes comforting because I know that, no matter how painful the bad times are, the tide will change, and there will be good times again.
I allow myself to grieve for the person I could have been and the experiences I could have had without my illness whilst still appreciating my body for keeping me alive despite all I have done to do the opposite. I am grateful for my empathy and my ability to connect with others, whatever the circumstances, even though feeling so much can sometimes be painful.

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